I’ve just found out about a Shontelle-like “impossible” breakup and up to a point it shaked my mind. And when I saw the woman he left his wife for, I was even more amazed. WTF is wrong with guys that leave beautiful, succesful, smart wifes for less beautiful, less smart and less succesfull mistresses? Shouldn’t you at least upgrade?
We waste time overfunctioning in the family, smiling when we don’t feel like smiling, assorting scarfs with bags’ color or hours shopping for the perfect dress to impress …who? What’s the point? Are any of these really important? This guy threw his marriage in the garbage can because he wasn’t “happy”! Is any of the many things we do as women make us happy for real?
Do we even think about how much we like a dress or only buy it because is trendy or it makes our bodies attractive? Do we feel good in our clothes or we must “suffer for beauty”, accept the discomfort “to be liked”? Well …most of us would answer “no” to all of these questions, but we don’t simply because we fear other women. And fear makes some of us overfunction even more, think of others, give to others, forget about what makes us happy even more. We lower our degrees of dificulty up to a point any dress or any forced smile we would wear has no value. We become easy, aparently worthless. Thus bored guys looking for thrills leave and mow any available woman. Even though they would have been of low value, when we put ourselves down, any other women appear to be better!
But weakness and self downgrade is really only temporary. And only guys that have never really been there go. Focusing on what makes us happy again, giving to us, dressing to satisfy our likings will make us more attractive than any “shoulder to cry on” woman. We are more beautiful, smarter and more succesfull than these bitches.
The only mistake we all should stop doing, is to upgrades them with our fear.
And remembering that our men have chosen us because they love us and not because they had no alternative, should stop worthy women reacting of fear. We are a choice not a lack of choices. So let’s keep our own standards high!